How did you meet your wife?
Yomi: We met at a friend’s party some years ago. She came with her elder sister and I think then they worked together at Music Africa.
What were the qualities that attracted you to your spouse?
Yomi: She was the only reserved girl in the party that day and I was surprised as to why a pretty Lagos girl would wear a suit to a birthday party all covered as if she was going to a church service. That was what really caught my attention. I greeted her but she wasn’t so receptive.
Grace: I liked the fact that he is a very kind and understanding person. He is also ambitious and focused.
Was it love at first sight for you?
Yomi: It wasn’t because when I met her, I was in a relationship.
Grace: I didn’t even look at him twice when me met. I had nothing like that on my mind.
What finally convinced you to take the relationship to the next level?
Yomi: When love happens, you really cannot explain it. I cannot really say that the qualities I found in her is the reason I decided to get married to her but she complements me. Ever since we began dating, everything just moved smoothly, and I think that’s enough reason to know that I had found my life partner.
Grace: Like he said, we complement each other. I am always happy whenever I am with him and I was convinced that he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.
How did you propose to her?
Yomi: I proposed to her at a friend, Funny Bone’s show. She actually didn’t see it coming because she thought I wasn’t ready. Even before we got to the show, I had told her that I wasn’t ready for marriage just to take her mind off it.
When you initially got married, what were some of those adjustments that you had to make?
Grace: I have always being a homely person so there weren’t many adjustments to make. However, marriage curtails a bit of your freedom as you have to be answerable to your spouse.
Can you recall the first disagreement you had as a married couple?
Grace: The first disagreement we had was about staying out late. Sometimes, he has to work late at the office and I had the mindset that my husband always had to come back home on time and stay with me. However, I have understood that staying out late at times has to do with his job. If he would be staying out late, he always lets me know beforehand.
When you have quarrels, who usually apologises first?
Yomi: I’m always the first to do that because I hate trouble. Before she starts talking, I just tell her that I’m sorry. She also apologises too and that’s why I said we complement each other.
What are some of the most memorable moments of your marriage so far?
Yomi: That was when our child came; it was a sweet moment for us.
What would you say fatherhood has changed about you?
Yomi: It has changed a lot. I used to be hot tempered but fatherhood has calmed me. Instead of getting angry now, I just smile. I have learnt to create excuses for people and even if that’s not the reason, it will make me feel good about myself. Fatherhood has also taught me how to save money in terms of my business and general lifestyle. Before I buy something now, there has to be a serious need for it. Before spending money, I think of how many things I can buy for my baby with that same amount.